As we seek to embrace our purpose as women, it is important for us to know that we too were created to display the image of God. As women, we reflect the image of God in ways that are distinct from men, for example Isaiah 66:13 states “As a mother comforts her child ,so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.” He created us with equal importance yet differing function.
The “help meet”
As women, we have a subordinate function to the man. God designed the men to be the leaders, and we provide them with the tools and insights to lead effectively. They are the providers, but we are their cheerleaders encouraging and motivating them each step of the way. They are the protectors, but we are their safe place. We are the opposite that complements; we add value to their existence, all for God’s glory.
To define womanhood is really to explain the purpose of the woman, her functions, and her roles and responsibilities. What better woman can reflect this than Lemuel’s mother, the Proverbs 31 woman? I remember in courtship being encouraged to emulate the characteristics of this woman described in Proverbs 31 and thinking she must have been a superhero! How can I ever attain such diligence and excellence? While we cannot relate to every single activity there are some principles that we can take away for her lifestyle.
Let us review some attributes of a godly woman outlined in Proverbs 31: 10-31:
- She is rare, demanded for her Christlike character vs 10
- Confidential and responsible vs 11
- Industrious vs 13
- Resourceful vs 14
- A good housewife vs 15
- Investor vs 16
- She works hard, not slothful vs 17
- Consistent vs 19
- Giver vs 20
- Prepared for changes in times and seasons vs 21
- Uses her gifts to gain income vs 24
- Her work shall be rewarded vs 25
- Faithful and Diligent vs 27
- Fears the Lord vs 30
Dr. Tony Evans and Chrystal Evans Hurst in their book entitled, Kingdom Woman, explained that the Proverbs 31 woman exemplified noble qualities because she really was strong, capable, giving, resourceful, efficient and spiritually minded.
Unfortunately, if women today are striving to be all of those things at all times, they will feel like failure. In a more practical way, it may be possible to fulfill the calling of Proverbs 31, but those qualities don’t all have to be fulfilled simultaneously. Much of what is noted about this woman is what we are growing into as we become more like Christ.
Let us take this journey one step at a time, identifying our strengths and weaknesses. Let our prayer be that God will keep us humble and consistent where strong, and where we are weak, let us seek knowledge, strength and help from others who are stronger in that area. No matter where on the journey we are, we should all be grateful that we are heading in the right direction. As a godly woman, we should never feel the need to compete with a man, or any other woman. A godly woman only needs to stand and honour God with every step she takes.
My sister, don’t allow your past, inadequacies, and failures to dictate who you are. Instead, open your Bibles and let the truth of God’s words govern your thoughts and instruct your ways. You are running and one day your story will read “Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.” Proverbs 31:29. You excel them all not by being their competitor but by walking in alignment with God’s will for you.
Today’s Challenge: Does your existence define God’s purpose for creating women? Which attribute of the Proverbs 31 woman can you work on this coming week?
Today’s Verse for Meditation: She looketh well to the ways of her (household) Saviour, and eateth not the bread of idleness.(Proverbs 31:27, KJV, rewording mine)
Today’s Affirmation: I choose to live in my calling, I choose to walk purposely and faithfully in God’s ordinance as a godly woman.