Having described what Godly masculinity looks like, the quest is then to embark on reforming the minds and mentality of our men to a Godly, restored state of masculinity. I believe that the restoration of masculinity can be facilitated in our religious spaces via the following methods:

Firstly, preachers, teachers and leaders in general must speak consistently and confidently about the beauty of complementarity. We should confidently maintain and endorse biblical complementarianism. We must not make light of, or be embarrassed about the truth outlined in scripture which clearly approves and explains this concept. We must not denigrate the importance of this truth or its application in the church. We undermine both, when we make light of complementarity. The solution to a spiritual issue has to emanate from a spiritual source, the word of God, (John 6:63).

Secondly, Men need an authoritative presence. Weak leadership makes weak men. Passionless leadership, will never move men to great commitment. Men long for a higher calling. Men need a higher purpose. Our hearts leap within us when we see exhibitions of courage; when we hear tales of heroism and when we witness valiant sacrifice. Look at the way young boys gravitate towards super heroes! Give men a grander vision for their life, one marked by service, leadership, and devotion to great and noble ends in the Kingdom of God. This is a mentality that we will have to cultivate!

Thirdly, the creation, demonstration and preservation of the critical distinction between males and females should be encouraged by the leadership. From a tender age, the men should be groomed in the faculties of courage, commitment and confidence. This means that a visual demonstration of courage, commitment and confidence (not arrogance) should be observable in men or in a man who operates as a mentor. In the case of grown men, there should be strong mentorship first, followed by training. This sort of set-up has to be facilitated by men displaying the required and desired virtues.

Finally, we must intentionally enlist, equip, and empower men into leadership roles in our churches. Biblically, theologically, and logically, the indispensable ingredient to complementarianism is biblical manhood. One of the recurring arguments that undermines male leadership in the church is the absence of biblically-qualified male leaders. Let us be determined to blast this red herring argument, “What if there is no man to lead or preach?” strait into hell.

Can society flourish with a diminishing masculinity and the virtual disappearance of men? I think not. More urgently, can the church flourish without the reappearance of men? Absolutely not. Let us recommit ourselves to raising up a generation of godly men, ready to lead and serve the bride of Christ.

We will continue to look at the “Description of Masculinity” in our next study.